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hey what's up this is Leo for actualised org and this is a quick self-help segment we're in about 10 minutes or less I'm going to tell you how to become successful so this is a big topic to bite off and in fact this is one of my favorite topics to talk about this is why I created my website actualize that org is to really understand the psychology of success and that is such a deep rabbit hole to go down I literally have hundreds of ideas on this so here in this quick little segment I'm just going to give you some of the some of the basics some of the fundamentals maybe some of the practical things that you can do and actually I'm actually going to reference Arnold Schwarzenegger who has was a great video on this where he talks about his six principles for success so I'm going to reference a little bit of that and throw into my ideas so his six principle of success all right I'm going to just list them out one trust yourself to break the rules three don't fear failure four don't listen to the naysayers five work your butt off and six give back so let's cover some of these and some other ideas so first of all trust yourself I think here what he's saying is that you have to really understand yourself you understand what you want out of life what do you really value what do you find meaningful what are you passionate about you have to align your passion with your work because if those two are not aligned you will not be successful I guarantee it you will not be successful and even if you are it's going to be very shallow kind of success so you got to do a little bit of self exploration that means go out and try some stuff if you're still early in your life you haven't had a lot of jobs go out and experiment and just see what resonates with you because you don't even know what you like yet if you're a little bit older you've probably already had a little bit of that experience so you're more cognizant of what you like and what you don't like you have more stipulations so you have to go and sit down and really write this out to be very methodical and strategic about what you want you have to get clear about your values you have to get clear about your top five feelings you have to get clear about your life purpose and all these topics I cover really really in-depth in on actualized org with other videos so you might want to check those out but knowing yourself is very very important otherwise you're not going to your work is not going to be aligned the next thing is I would say the hard work hard work is really really important to be successful and to be at the top like ten percent of the population in terms of success all those people work their ass off you're not going to be successful without hard work and the reason mostly is not even they have to go out there and and build a giant Empire or you have to a mass amount of money or work long hours it's not even so much about that it's that you need to develop yourself because success is not so much an outer world state as an inner world state and that might sound kind of hokey a new age but it's very very true success is grounded within you you're not going to be able to maintain any sort of level of success if you do not have the psychology to really follow principles to know how to maintain success to think strategically to think long term to delay gratification to resist addictions all these factors come into play so really for me success is grounded in self mastery it's understanding yourself and then building on that building disciplines building successful habits which then move you towards where you want to be going the next point is I think you got to really choose a career path for yourself what is it that you're going to be mastering I tell everybody to create a personal mission statement and on that mission statement one of the things that I instruct everybody to do all my clients and all my listeners all my viewers is that they need to pick one thing there to be mastering over the next ten years that they're going to be totally committed to so what does that think for you you know are you like orange for Tiger and you want to be the world's best bodybuilder do you want to be the best computer programmer do you want to be a highly paid movie star what do you want to be doing with your life you want to be an athlete there's all these infinite possibilities you have to pick something and really commit to it and commit to it and like burn all your bridges so that go back so that there's only going forward and that no matter what obstacles are on your way you're still going to keep going because I guarantee there's gonna be obstacles and the biggest problem with people not being successful is that they dabble too much George Leonard talks about this in his brilliant book mastery which you must read if you want to become successful in life and I cover that in other videos as well I have videos on it that cover in depth reviews but you should also check out the book itself is that most people are dabblers that means that they do a little bit here they do a little bit there they try this they try that and they're all over the place they don't have focus they're not committed to anything and with that kind of mindset you cannot be successful you have to put your time in success is a slow cooking recipe it's like a stew right it's not a quick little stir fry it's a stew it has to marinate and that marination process it doesn't take a year it doesn't take two years it takes more like 10 years or 20 years we're talking about decades so go into something with that kind of mindset and you can already sense that if you're going to be putting 10 to 20 years into something you have to know that what you're putting it into is going to be something that's going to be aligned with your values it's going to be something that you find passion in something that you find really meaningful something that you find rewarding something you find interest in something that's fascinating to you and you're curious about so what is that for you if you don't know what that is you want to go out there and explore maybe do some brainstorming do some journaling about it start looking into that start finding that out you're probably also going to want to go and and find out what your major strengths are by taking the strength survey at authentic happiness calm its pre-survey for Martin Seligman he's the founder of the positive psychology movement and there if you take that survey it'll give you your top 5 strengths out of a list of 24 and those strengths should strongly guide you in the direction of where you want your career path to go and so you'll have to think about that the other thing I would say is figure out exactly what you don't want because sometimes we know what we want but we don't think about what we don't want and part of that for example is people pursuing a career very rigorously like maybe somebody wants to become a or a lawyer or they want to become a CEO or or whatever professionally but then they don't think about the lifestyle that comes with that so it's very important to both think about your career and your lifestyle simultaneously and to see how those two are going to meet together how they're going to dovetail you want them to dovetail well for example do you want to do a lot of traveling do you want to be living in different countries around the world how important is money to you how important is financial independence to you how important is creative autonomy to you how important is that your job has a lot of creativity how important is it that your job is you sitting in a cubicle all by yourself and being able to focus and concentrate or maybe you're the type of person that really finds it interesting to be talking with people all the time and you can't stand sitting in a cubicle and you need to be in a very social environment or maybe you can't even stand to be in a social environment in an office you want to be outside the office you want to be working in the outdoors like you got to take all these factors into consideration and write down a list of the things that you know you absolutely don't want so maybe you don't want to be working for somebody else that's important that's something I had to find out the hard way by going and working for somebody only to realize that I cannot work for other people I'm too creative I'm - I'm like - I'm too excited about getting my own ideas out to be implementing somebody else's ideas so for me that meant that my only real route was entrepreneurship starting my own business working for myself being self-employed so that was a big shift I had to make and I lost some time and some some some opportunities by not having to realize that earlier but sometimes you got to make those mistakes to really understand it or you can't just understand it in the abstract so you got to go out there and experiment and try this stuff around so success will come to you really if you if you hit all these points you're working hard you know yourself you're aligned with your life purpose you know what that is and you've chosen a path of mastery that means you're going to be very committed to it for for years and decades it's going to be hard to be a failure when you've got all those elements in place and the last element that I'm going to talk about really is this element of self matter Street I think that's what ties it all together because if you've got all those these these other points but you don't have a really mastery of your own emotions and mastery of your own psychology then what's going to happen is that you're going to have problems that are gonna creep up you're going to hit obstacles you're going to have points where you're going to think about failing you're going to have points about we're going to be you're going to be feeling like you're not achieving as much as you want to be you're going to have points where maybe you have a major setback in your business or in your career you get fired you get laid off something like that you need to be able to deal with those and you need to have awareness and control over your emotions which is what I call self mastery and that's a topic that's really deeply I'm deeply passionate about that I cover very deeply in other topics on actualize data log that you'll probably want to check out in other videos but I think you got to commit to that as well because if you're committed to that then you're committed to really understanding your own psychology and you're committed to mastering yourself well from that flows everything else from that flows your your career from that will also flow your relationships from that will flow your money management abilities and your fitness and your your ability to admit to do everything in life that's just such a critical component and I think the other last element kind of the cherry on top of it all is that successful people study success they study other successful people because success leaves Clues and you can see that other successful people are doing something different that normal people are doing and one of things they do differently is that they interact with those successful people and they learn from them and they buy books and they attend seminars and they're always learning so you got to keep your mind open always be committed to learning be curious about everything and above everything study personal development because you're gonna you're going to learn what the psychology of success is when you read books every once in a while and you attend a seminar once a year and you mastermind with other successful people you're going to see the commonalities and their success is going to rub off on you not in the sense they're going money or fame or something like that but I mean their their mindsets are going to rub off on you and then you're going to use those in your own unique way to go out there and create the kind of success that you want in your career and in your business wherever that takes you whatever your path is and then of course as Arnold Schwarzenegger says give back right success should not be about accumulating a bunch of money or getting prestige or fame success should be about you doing something positive for the world and to be successful you need to be aligned with value giving you cannot be a value leech and be successful in the long run I see people making this mistake you need to be a value provider and you need to see that you're not just providing value as in getting charity that's what I'm talking about I'm saying you need to provide value in a way where people are getting a lot more from you than you're charging them and then when that is happening then people want to be associated with you they want to interact with you they want to hire you they want to do business with you they want to become your clients and through that process you cannot fail to get success the fact is though that handling all those points that I just mentioned even though it's simple it can be challenging especially staying on track with that so to help you do that that's why I create resources on actualised org so I'm going to wrap up this video here go ahead post your comments share it like it but more importantly if you're really committed to success I highly encourage you to go to actualize that org check out our other advanced free videos some of our courses there and sign up to the newsletter so that you can be immersed in this in this theory of success because I cover psychology success and pretty much every single video that I shoot the more you learn it the more you immerse yourself in it whether for me or for somebody else I don't care the more successful you're likely to be the more you're likely stay on track with success because it's all about how long you're able to to stay on course success is not a sprint it's a marathon all right this is Leo signing off you